How do you reset after getting rejected? Rejection sucks. The feeling especially sucks when you are just starting out in your new business or job hunting. Think of each “no” as part of a game. When going after new business or jobs, you might not get a “yes” right away. Landing deals is complicated and nonlinear. Hear how The Niche Movement Founder Kevin O’Connell takes rejection and uses it to build up his “no” tolerance.
In my youth I feared failure. I feared failing tests, losing games, or simply being denied something. I knew what I wanted and how I could get it, but my mind was constantly focused on the failures that could result. I rarely envisioned the possible successes but rather the embarrassment of a failure. When I studied for a test it was to avoid failure. In sports, I practiced to not lose in front of my friends and family. I was motivated by fear. My success was directly linked to a negative premise of failure. I used this mindset to propel me to excell at times but when I experienced a loss the negative mindset appeared. I was a sore loser but I was also a questionable winner. As I matured I began to see things differently. I saw that losing is opportunity to self evaluate and tweak some things to be better prepared for my next test. I learned that I had to be willing to take a risk to grow. Take a chance with change or simply to fall down, in order to truly learn how to stand properly.